1. Over apologising – We all make mistakes, none of us are perfect, but what about when, like me, you find yourself apologising for everything? Stop it. Stop it now. Own your own mistakes, yes, but not those of others.
2. Feeling guilty – While I understand that our loved ones are trying their best to help, often they can either be the cause of this or worsen it. An example of this is their upset over cancelling plans.
With depression comes a rollercoaster of emotions, and the tendency for your mood to dip at the drop of a hat. So when plans are made you can feel okay, but that can soon change.Then comes the anxiety, which takes all our effort and willpower to still function with, let alone doing something outside of our comfort zone.
If you have to cancel then so be it: your mental health must remain priority. Do not feel guilty, or allow others to make you feel so.
3. Self-comparison – Sadly, this comes naturally. We see someone with the latest phone or wearing more expensive designer clothes, as examples, and instantly we compare ourselves to them. All I can say here is that we need to own ourselves, our flaws included. If we are unhappy with something then it needs to be changed, not used as a means of punishing ourselves.
4. Surrounding yourself with negativity - Negative people (and this includes family), your job and your surroundings. Have a clear out.
5. Social media - Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Pinterest - our whole lives revolve around social media. If you cannot deactivate your account, please take regular breaks.
6. Self-doubt – I cannot lie and say that I am the most confident of people, but I also know this is something that I need to work on. We all have strengths that need to be put to good use, and we all have weaknesses that could be worked on. With achievement comes confidence, but we have to take the leap first.
7. Negative self-talk – Whether said out loud, or just a passing thought. If you do feel said emotions then counteract this by praising your self with something, a quality or an achievement. You’re fighting a difficult battle, don’t add to it. Stand strong and be bloody proud of yourself.
8. People pleasing – We all want to be liked, but, sadly, not everyone we come across will do so, and that’s okay. Don’t sacrifice your health to alter people’s perceptions of you – if they like you then they are meant to play a part in your life, if not then so be it.
9. Settling – We all have goals in life, be it personal or career-wise. Your dream is to become a vet, but you don’t feel that you can complete the degree, so instead you settle for the regular 9 to 5 to have a wage. If you can dream it then you can achieve it.
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